TAKE 12 February Collaboration - PURITY
The TAKE 12 Project is a twelve month journey, we do this together . . . we were never created to "do alone". It is a commitment to ourselves and our readers to grow, to be truthful, to be transparent, to always know who we are and stay grounded, to journey with LOVE and to trust that we will be transformed.
If you missed January read more about the start of the journey here - http://www.desireehartslief.co.za/blog/148-take-12-january-collaboration
My Precious Daughter,
I will never leave you, I will never forsake you, I will be faitful until the end. I have examined your heart, I know everything about you, When you sit down or stand up, I know your thoughts, Even when you are far away, Believe me I know the lies, I know the temptations, But I am here, I know what you are going to say, Even before you say it, I go before you and follow. If you ride the wings of the morning, If you dwell by the farthest oceans, even there my Spirit will guide you.
I made all the delicate, inner parts of your body, I made your heart, I know what makes you hurt, I know what makes you cry, I know what excites you, I know what breaks your heart the most, And I know how to comfort you, I know how to make you smile, I know how to LOVE you, I know how to be a daddy who loves, Such a beautiful daughter like you.I chose you as mine, I dreamed about the colour of your eyes and every strand of hair.
You are fearfully and wonderfully made. My thoughts about you are precious. My Beloved, I love you, I love you , and I love you.
Will you love me back?
( A love letter from God to His Daughters)
- Kimberley Hillebrand
What governs your convictions ?
What governs my convictions ?
As a child you observe the daily interactions between people, you see that your mom and dad kiss when they greet each other, and of course, naturally everyone else who kisses is husband and wife right . . . Because your mom told you that only people who love each other kiss, in your childlike mind that means only mommies and daddies kiss, because being married means you love the other person, there is no other rationale.
You grow a little older and realise that your parents and the church had this mind-boggling ability to create a quixotic world where love is pure and genuine . . . You realise this piece of fiction because HORMONES and life happens where PG sometimes fail and your `innocent` mind is tainted with strange reactions and thoughts towards the opposite sex.
As soon as your parents realise that their fool proof plan to shield you from the realities of the lusts of the body, they sit you down for a talk about the BIRDS AND THE BEES notice that they speak in metaphor, because it is equally uncomfortable for them as it is for you to talk about issues of the intimate type. Yet they persist as they feel obliged to inform you and guide you according to the Bible and the convictions they themselves were taught at your age by their parents. At the end of the information session, everyone feels a little embarresed for having to have gone through the `talk` but the parents sleep easier knowing they did their part and you lie awake wondering if that really just happened.
A few years later and you hopefully managed to master the EMOTIONAL and HORMONAL roller coaster of the teenage years, some with their convictions intact but with a bazillion insoluble questions, and others with a bit of experience . . . Regardless of where you find yourself is WHAT GOVERNS YOUR CONVICTIONS. If you can create an image in your mind about this, why you choose to abstain or not, you will be hard pressed to do something you will come to regret.
Yes you will be tempted, it is reiterated in the Bible and you will come to know this from personal experience, but if you can understand why you want to abstain, why it is important to you to keep this union between you and your husband pure, you can walk in confidence that you know your worth in your choice.
Life is the teacher now, your parents, the church and your understanding in your convictions are the foundation in how you handle tempting situations. Because boys will tell you that you are beautiful and that they want to love you, that you should enjoy your body and life now when everything is at it`s peak, that experience matters . . . You will be in situations where your body will want to nullify your heart`s convictions on abstinance, where it will be difficult to form coherent sentences to explain the worth you hold in the union of the bodies.
Through all this you will question your decisions, you won`t want to abstain because everyone else says it`s not relevant anymore, times have changed, you will want to explore and discover because it`s a natural part of life BUT you WILL want to abstain because you WILL be celebrated and rewarded beyond the flesh. There will be confidence and emotional security, a love and adoration grounded on trust, self worth and respect on both sides . . . all this will be lost if you are made to believe sex is the same as making love . . .
What governs my convictions . . . knowing that I`M WORTH IT, to be the only one, to myself and to my husband.
Written by Celeste
GIOCA Cndidate, University of Bologna
Master aof Arts Management Candidate